Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Autism Awareness Month/Inclusion Awareness Month

I just read the absolute best book ....Love That Boy by Ron Fournier.

So great that it's got me actually writing a blog post.

I think those that know us best are keenly aware we're not huge awareness types.  We feel that you're aware of different diseases and the like if it personally touches you.  It turns people off of us big time but through the years our skin has thickened.  We're okay.  This is the first year I posted a picture on facebook acknowledging this is even Autism Awareness Month....which I soooooo want to change to Inclusion Awareness Month or How to be a Good Citizen Awareness month.

Anywho, I am dang near obsessive about reading books on autism.  I continuously live in this hope that a book will predict my boys' futures.  It won't.  My head knows this but......

So, on a whim I downloaded a book about a father and his Asperger's son.  This isn't my normal book because thus far, I don't know a soul with Asperger's... though the more I learn, the more I'm convinced nearly everyone I know is somewhere on this great spectrum we call autism.

Here are the notes I took from the book (once again, Love that Boy by Ron Fournier):

These notes are specifically for me as a mom and general person of the world:
1.  Teach yourself and kids to Do good...Do your Best....Don't worry about what other people think!
2.  Remember:  Sense of Purpose equals Happiness.  Happiness should not mean pleasure!!!!
3.  True happiness is almost always doing hard but good things over, and over, and OVER! (important for Sawyer who has a fit that everything is so hard...poor love...we're working on this)
4.....3 keys to success (and your kiddos' success)
            1...emotional mastery
             3....ownership of the course of your life   (all very hard for the autistic but must be core goals)

Now the notes I have written as school stuff:
1.  From a school motto in Arlington, VA/the Principal's message...."I expect you to invite them to your cliques, and to your parties, and to stand up for them if anybody acts against them."  (this is what inclusion means to me!....not that they'll get all those invites but really, invite them to your table at school...teach everyone to be good)
2.  A culture of community and competence (a note I took for loving the words expressed here)
3.  Teach them to be good citizens...not to just read and write.  (and this is not just for my boys but all kids!!!  Please!)
4.  Next IEP specific to 1) more in-class assistance and 2) social skills training  ...if there is a problem for the school ask specifically "so you're telling me that you can't educate my son?"....then if necessary call Utah Parents Resource me, this is all so very excellent and valuable.  I really, really loved this book.  These are all fridge worthy notes.  And my timing to find this book is impeccable.  We are starting ABA (applied behavioral analysis) with the actual intake assessment happening this Friday.  The school, our pediatrician and after a few not so great attempts at social groups, have all suggested that we need, we're getting the ball rolling.  This list will be with me as I ask questions and learn.

Cute pic moment:

.........and this is it......terribly written for the blog world but all I can manage because there is school and things on the calendar.

Trust me....this is a great book.  Written by a hugely successful reporter than has the best quotes from the very best books.  And this is written to those that could push aside their expectations and learn more about me, a great book on how to be a citizen of the world that can look beyond themselves.  ......I could totally get behind an Inclusion/Acceptance of All Awareness Month.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Phone dump

Salt Lake City's LDS temple.... very pretty plus we saw famous Phil from Modern Family while we were walking the grounds!

This was at Salt Lake City's City Creek Mall....very pretty.

A really pretty shot of the temple.

We've had quite a bit of snow this winter.  Luckily, the boys had a great time sledding while their grandmother was here.

This was taken at Hill AFB.


A trip to Antelope Island right after a big snow had us seeing so much wildlife.  

Porcupine pic-a-boo.

I have truly never seen so many buck in my life.  Easily saw 10 to 12 in various groups.  They were huge.

Small start to valentine project.

Salt and Pepper shakers of pigs with wings....a personal favorite....right up there with unicorns.

A very tech-savvy Christmas this year.

I personally love doing up my kitchen at Christmas.  We spend so much time in there and everything just looks sooooooo cozy with the twinkly lights and Christmas houses.

Cookies with grandma.  I had made a couple of different kinds of dough and thought I'd only made enough for a few dozen..........4+ hours later.....we were sick of baking cookies!!!!

This was actually the breaking of the wishbone from our turkey...done a bit later than Thanksgiving.  Oops.

Darth Vader....awesome-sauce!!!!  I was quite proud of this makeup since he couldn't wear a mask to school.

This little guy had wanted to be a pumpkin since mid September....and then the morning of, he had doubts.  Fortunately, I think he discovered quickly that we all thought he was one dang cute pumpkin.....he loves the attention.

I started an epic and awesome hair cut and then...........he screwed it up trying to fix a 'spot'....bless his heart.....he ended up having to basically shave his head after his 'fix'.

Small hike with the daughter-in-law and rest of family in Ogden.

We finally went to the annual bison round-up at Antelope Island.  I can only say it was cooler than I could of imagined.   ........just go if you can.

No order whatsoever......simply wanted to get 2016 pics on here.    We had an awesome year.  I like to think I'll blog and do wonderful online things but it's not top priority so.......there you have it.  ....may 2017 be as awesome as this past year!!!!!

Monday, October 3, 2016

A little Mother Teresa share plus photo dump.

I definitely need to find a cleaner picture of this.....She didn't actually write this.  It was written by Kent M. Keith in 1968.  Mother Teresa simply loved this and had cut it out to place on the wall for all her children to see in Calcutta.  She did doctor this a bit too because Keith made the point that the last two lines were different.  It is between you and God...but it's between you and them too.  The great teaching was to love God first and then to love your neighbor as yes, it's between you and the great "them" as well.    ....I too love this though and have a gorgeous picture of a tree that has this highlighted.  I just like to remember that society has a way of tampering with things so to remember things for myself. 

Things I don't want to little hands.

Times they get along so well!!

Occasional shots with mom...this is the Spiral Jetty out at Golden Spike.

Random...I-give-up...because this will hopefully be a good memory of just splashing was good...actually, very good.  Salty...but good.

We keep a National Passport book for stamps.....really need to get these guys each their own.

Tristan's random kitchen art for me...this was for, we'll need a new one.

This is how the walls tend to look...not too shabby since that I love mom is in there....and really, that's not even my handwriting.  

Something healthy.

and then this happened....soooooooo good and toooo easy.

My excuse is the oldest son and daughter-in-law....they come pretty much every Sunday and it's the day we eat very, very well.  Celebrating a good week done with and new days to come.  Plus, I'm so thankful they do this.     love love love

Random robe love from Wal-mart....Santa...please see this.....very warm and cozy.

Ignore messy kitchen...notice these huge guys....4 and 5.  Oy.  Why oh why can't baby times last longer.

We so heart our chickens.  

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Long overdue photo dump

 From the beginning of June until  now....a fun summer.

Kitchen silliness.

A terribly long viral thing for both boys....ending with Connor having an allergic reaction to what they think was Augmentin in amoxacillin.

Tire swings.


Baseball games!

The Angels!!!

Wal-mart shenanigans.

Epic Camping.



Tristan's 21st.

Baby chicks.

Willard Bay


Brotherly love.


Fancy Fiiz drinks.

Bible school.

Mutton Bustin for the first time.

A few trips to VA for me to see family.

Ben visited and here we are with Lori!


Garage sale score.

My 22nd 21st birthday at Alpine Church's 15th anniversary celebration.

First day of school breakfast for Sawyer.

Lazy morning.

Garden love.

Pre-wrestling move.

Porch selfie.

13th anniversary....Bear Lake


Tree climbing love.

Play-doh fun.

Chicken egg snobbery.....